I Got Banned!

So I got banned from MaleSurvivor. Or as they put it "a 10 day vacation". They also said I sould email them "my thoughts" before I return.

Now besides the fact that this is a site which I had paid access to (AND they billed me twice), they tout themselves to be all about helping victims and healing.

I got banned for:

• posting a link to my site
• offering to host a page for anyone who wanted/needed to expose their perp
• publicly commenting on a mods actions

Ok, the first two I can almost understand. Its not my site and those are their rules. But that last reason/rule is too scary for me. MS is starting to sound like a perp themselves. "We will do this to you, but you are in trouble if you tell anyone".

Does anyone else see a problem with this besides me? Does this behaviour offend anyone besides me? I can se a mod needing to lock or move a post, but banning someone because they comment about said action in another unrelated thread is a little militant.

What the Mods of MS fail to recognize is everyone heals in their own way, at their own pace. They way I chose to heal is to speak out about my perp. To speak out about my sexual assault, about all sexual assault. To help prevent other children from being hurt.

In the eyes of MS that makes me a radical. An unwanted element.

MS was a great site. I learned a lot there. I made some "online friends" there. I think I may have even helped one or two people there.

I think back to some of the very personal stuff I posted there, and am now very shocked to find out that one of the mods there is a Police Officer.

That is kinda creepy to me. It makes me feel a little violated. I'm not sure why. I have nothing against the police. Some of my best friends and my sister are police officers. I just wonder why they have a "cop on staff"..... Something to think about later I guess.

So the very site that is all about healing and helping uses thier forum as a weapon to control the masses. There are those out there that use that forum as their only form of support. could you image the state that someone would be in if that rug were pulled out from under them for what could be a very minor infraction? Someone who has already been hurt. Someone who is already suffering, and now their only support system is taken away?

SHAME SHAME SHAME

I don't think they deserve the power they yield. I don't think they have their members best interestes in mind.

I still visit the site. I still post under a new name. Not so much out of a need, but more to make a point. I hate being told what I can/can't do. Anyone with an ounce of net savy knows there is no way to ban someone from an online forum. What is sad is that if I hadn't taken those steps I would never have known that an "online friend" had suffered a major illness.